Well Grand Rising and Happy Mondaying everyone!
I hope that your weekend was as fabulous as you are and that you week continues to flow in the most fabulous way possible and, even if it’s not, that you remain positive.
Trouble don’t last always...
I have a very interesting topic to discuss today. Well, not so much discuss as address. I received the most fascinating email last night and I thought it best to share my thoughts with everyone rather than just replying to the sender directly. That way, you all can observe the type of pettiness that I come in contact with as your friendly, neighborhood, Black, Big Girl blogger.
I won’t make you suffer through the entire jumble of words the way I was forced to. I’ll just hit you with the headlines:
Damn It, Sam;
I would just like you to understand how utterly disappointed I am with your blog posts lately. I usually enjoy your light hearted sarcasm, but the past few posts and IG comments have been extremely offensive to me.
Over the course of the last few days, you have addressed your audience as “beautiful Black people”. I however, am not Black. Wouldn’t it make more sense to address the audience in more general terms? It is very hurtful to know that I am excluded in your publications simply because of my race. Why is race even involved in your message?
Please take your entire audience into account when you are writing. Your messages are very encouraging and uplifting. I would hate to have to unsubscribe becausr you intentionally exclude the feelings of you audience.
A Former Faithful Reader
Well. That was something wasn’t it?
I would just like to go on record as saying I am not now, nor have I ever been a racist person. I’m not naive enough to claim that I don’t see color because I absolutely do. But I hold no hostility for white people.
If my loving my Black life and my brown skin and decide to make content that I am aiming particularly at a Black and Brown audience, that is my right as an American and my preference as a woman. I will not now nor will I ever apologize for loving the skin that I am in and loving the people that look like me. And if I offend you, that's an interesting way of taking it but I understand.
Let's make this a bit more plain by comparing this situation to Netflix shows.
Because who doesn't like Netflix, right?
There are several hundreds of viewing selections on that streaming site. There are comedies and dramas, movies and television shows, documentaries and special showings. There are a crazy amount of option available for your viewing pleasure. If you are a White person, there are thousands of people that look exactly like you on your television screen. But there are significantly less predominately Black viewing options. Not just that we aren't starring in them, but they aren't even in the background.
It's like we're invisible.
AND if there is a chance that you are looking for a blog or a podcast, there is even less representation there. But here I am, a plus size, female, Black author, blogger and podcaster, forced to defend my beliefs and my preferences on a website that I paid for with my own money. I have worked ridiculously hard on loving myself, my skin, my weight, my personality and my life overall nd I refuse to entertain any individual that would want to make me second guess that.
If me loving my Black life and my brown skin and decide to make content that I am aiming particularly at a Black and Brown audience, that is my right and I don’t have to explain it, nor defend it. Consider this a professional courtesy. And if I offend you, that's an interesting way of taking it but I understand.
And in the words of the face behind the voice in my head, Dave Chappelle, said in his most recent Netflix special:
"You clicked on MY face."