Grand Rising, you beautiful people, you.
And please forgive my absence. You know that Damn It, Sam is a mom and my children have gone back to school, which means I have been running around like a nutcase for the past couple of weeks. Uniforms and school supplies, not to mention my own emotional rollercoaster. I have been spent, but I popped back in to check on you all.
So how you doing?
Sometimes we can get so caught up in our own lives that we forget the needs of the people that we care about. That doesn't mean that we don't care, because I know that I do. It's just that we have responsibilities and obligations and dreams and goals and to-do lists that won't get done until we take the time and attention to do them.
I know for me, I am working on my next book and a new project that I am considering undertaking. I have my job and my Fraternal obligations. In addition to my kids starting school, the youngest 2 started football as well which adds practices and games to my seemingly limitless to do list. I'm still getting my date on, so that's time reserved as well. I have to meditate and workout and eat and sleep. The list just seems to go on and on. And, while we are doing all of the doing that we have to do, we get so caught up that sometimes it's been hours, days, weeks or sometimes even months to be able to catch up with the ones we love.
That's doesn't mean that we don't love them. It's just means that we've been busy. But our loved ones are important to us. At least mine are. They are my support and my cheerleaders, my advice columnists and my bubble poppers. Even you, my faithful blog subscribers. You listen to my foolery when no one else will. And I appreciate you.
So for real, how are you doing?
I really want to know. I'm interested because I know that sometimes I forget to check in with myself. I forget that I am a person with feelings whose life has been recently upended and I need to pay better attention to my emotional state. I can't fill my life up with going and doing and accomplishing and glass ceiling-breaking that I forget about myself. Not just the clothes I wear or the food that I eat but the way that I feel.
Do you forgt to do that too? If you're anything like me, you probably do. So let's create a checklist! At least once a week, you need to consult the list, asking yourself these questions and taking some time to really, REALLY think about the answers. So, are you ready?:
1. Have I been getting enough sleep?
2. Have I been drinking enough water?
3. Have I been minding my business?
4.Have I been snappy lately?
5. Am I overwhelmed?
6. What do I need right now?
If the answer to any of these questions is no, or you can't even recall the answers, it's time to do some reevaluating.
As a rule, I reevaluate the things in my life every 3 months. My relationships, my business practices, my work ethic, my parenting. I'm not a perfectionist, but I do strive to do well in anything that I have to apply myself to. I don't like being found ignorant in areas that I should be found proficient. I don't like being unprepared or uninformed. And, I don't know if I told you this before, but I have decided not to make any major life changes or choices until March 9, 2020, which is a year from the date of my daughter's funeral. I do not believe in making moves based on emotions because emotions can very rarely be trusted. They're sometimey. I can be one way one moment and totally different the next, and that type of baseless thinking can cause chaos.
I don't do well in chaos.
But, because I am making no major changes, that doesn't mean that I am just going to accept whatever comes at me. I'm still reevaluating to see what works, what doesn't work, what can go, what can stay, what needs revising and what can be eliminated. It's a constant process to becoming the best Damn It, Sam I can be.
Because that's the goal, right?
We want to be the best uses that we can possibly be. We only get one life and it's not as long as we think it is. We have a very short time to create the biggest legacy that we can and that requires our best effort.
So where have I been? I've been building. I've been working and thinking and writing and brainstorming and meditating and manifesting my way to a great life for my kids and myself. I've been healing and resting and recuperating because I have quite the road ahead of me. I'm not worried aobut it though.
What's to come is better than what's been...
But for real tho... How you doing???
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