You Get to Choose...

Grand rising, beautiful people.

It has come to my attention that people think introverts are crazy. I get it. Quiet, understated, preferring my own company to that of a room full of loud, touchy people.

I don't do touchy. At all.

I'll hold my kids hands, hug my parents and part of my secular job is to touch people off and on for 8 hours a day, but that's about it. I love keeping my hands to myself. One of my best friend's lives for hugs and kisses and it was the hardest thing to get used to. Sometimes I have the audacity to go all stoic and statuesque when I see her, but I realize that this is what she needs to feel love, so I let her have her way with me until she feels better.

Otherwise, hands off.

Don't think of it as mean, think of it as me having a high respect level for the personal space of myself and others. I prefer the Black man head nod when I enter a room to hugs and handshakes. And listen, before you judge me, you have to realize that everyone has a spirit and everyone's spirit isn't light and airy. Some people's essence is slimy and dark and... disgusting for lack of a better word. I'm dealing with enough in my life and don't have time to take spiritual baths everyday so I prefer to keep to myself.

Sounds like a good plan when you look at it that way, right?

Introverts aren't crazy. We aren't rude or standoff-ish. We aren't mean or hateful or funny-acting. I'm not opposed to being called those things though. It' keeps down the riffraff.

My point is, everyone has a personal preference on how they act and want to be treated. This is one of the most delicious characteristics of being a human being in the world today. We can do and feel and say an act and be whoever we want to be whenever we want to be it. We can choose to change or evolve or we can choose to remain the same. Everyone has a choice.

You do realize that you have a choice, right? And that choice is exclusive to you. I can be who I want to be and change at the drop of a hat Whenever I get ready I can transform myself into someone else. I can go from being loud and obnoxious to being as quiet as a librarian if I so choose. No one can make you act or be a certain way. Your actions, mannerisms, lifestyles... your business. No one can make you different unless you give in to the change.

You are the captain of your ship. You are the creator of your destiny. You dictate the pace of how fast or how slow you move through this life and no one can tell you differently.

So, if no one has ever told you this before, please allow me to be the first:

You are in charge of what you do, where you go and what you do or do not like. You get a say in who you are. You have the only important input on your life. Of course, there are outside influences that you can consider if you so choose. But no one can make you be anything. You can continue to be pegged a victim of your past, present, future choices or mistakes, or you can think about who you want to be and start being that. I wish it were as easy of a decision as picking between Popeye's $5 box and a english muffin like the girl in the pic, but it's not.

Don't like your job? Look for another one.

Want to start a business? Do that!

You think you're fat? Work on losing weight?

Have bad credit? Get it together. You decide. You do the work. You reap the benefits.

I wave the introvert flag proudly, because its a choice. I chose that. I chose not to become what has happened to me or what I did or what I said or where I've been. I am exactly who say I am because I chose this. And if ever I don't want to choose it anymore I'll decide to be something different. That's my choice.

What's your choice???

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